1. Immediately remove your child when they begin to throw a temper tantrum.
  2. Remain calm.
  3. Make sure that you express your feelings in an acceptable way. Your example is a powerful message to your child.
  4. Teach your child how to deal with their feelings in an acceptable manner (e.g. compromising, walking away from a situation, talking with an adult, problem solving together). Decideon one consequence for throwing a temper tantrum (e.g. time out, sitting in a chair (one minute for each year of the child’s age), standing in the corner, going to their room).
  5. Make certain that you always maintain consistency in delivering the consequences.
  6. Be consistent in expecting your child to ask for things and react to disappointment without throwing atantrum. Do not “give in” to them one time and expect appropriate behavior the next time.
  7. Make certain your child knows beforehand what to expect in various situations (e.g. how much money they can spend at the store, how long they can visit a friend, what time they have to come home).
  8. Make certain baby sitters, grandparents, teachers, etc., understand the importance of following through on the discipline you set for your child.
  9. Teach your child to develop problem solving skills: A) identify the problem,B) identify possible solutions, C) develop a plan for action, D) carry out the plan.
  10. Teach your child alternative ways to communicate their unhappiness (e.g. talking about the problem, asking for help).
  11. Intervene early when your child begins to get upset in order to prevent a tantrum from getting out of control (e.g. take your child out of the store, leave the checkout line).
TIP: Your child will stop throwing temper tantrums in order to get his/her own way if you do not “give in” to the tantrums.