MY CHILD TELLS LIES

  1. Be honest with others. If you lie, your child will learn to lie also.
  2. Promote an open and honest line of communication with your child. Do not make him/her feel frightened about telling the truth.
  3. Do not allow your child to lie to you. If you know that your child has done something wrong, there is no need to ask him/her if they are guilty. Simply deal with their behavior in a “matter of fact” way.
  4. Make certain that you do not expect too much from your child. If he/she is unable to measure up to what you expect, it may cause him/her to lie.
  5. Deal with your child’s lying privately rather than in front of others.
  6. Do not appear shocked or surprised when your child lies. Deal with his/ her behavior in a calm and deliberate manner.
  7. Discuss alternative ways in which your child could have dealt with a situation rather than by lying. Problem-solve or brainstorm together so that each of you has the opportunity to provide input.
  8. When your child lies about his/ her behavior, calmly confront them with the facts. Encourage an open and honest line of communication between everyone in your home. Do not make your child fearful of telling the truth even though you may not be happy about their behavior. Let your child know how you feel about their unacceptable behavior.
  9. Avoid arguing with your child about whether or not he/she is lying; simply explain that they are not being completely honest about the situation.
  10. Make certain the punishment is not so severe as to cause your child to lie in order to avoid the punishment (e.g. coming in late should not result in being grounded for three weeks; more appropriate would be coming in earlier the next time).
  11. Encourage your child to come to you when he/she has a problem (e.g. doing their homework, dealing with peer pressure) so that you can help him/her problem-solve and prevent the need to lie.
TIP: Every child will naturally make some errors in judgment. Punishing your child for everything he/she does wrong will likely encourage lying. DON’T FORGET, some behavior can be ignored.